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Guiding, Not Dictating—Helping You Find Your Own Path

Many people enter therapy expecting immediate answers, hoping for a quick-fix solution to their challenges. They assume counsellors have all the right answers, ready to dispense like prescriptions. However, one of the key aspects of therapy is setting the right expectations - counselling isn’t about handing out solutions; it’s about helping you discover them for yourself.

There’s no universal solution to life’s challenges. Each person is shaped by unique experiences, values, and emotions, meaning what works for one individual may not work for another. As counsellor’s, our role isn’t to dictating what you should do, but to guide you in understanding your own thoughts, emotions, and behaviours. Therapy provides a supportive, non-judgmental space where you can explore your concerns, gain clarity, and develop strategies tailored to your needs.

Rather than advice, counselling offers guidance, emotional support, and a safe space for exploration. Through reflective questioning, active listening, and psychological insight, we help you identify what’s holding you back and how to move forward. The therapeutic process isn’t always straightforward, it requires patience, self-exploration, and time, but it’s designed to empower you.

While therapists are trained to help clients uncover the roots of their struggles and develop paths toward growth, you are the expert of your own life. What may seem challenging to one person might feel completely manageable to another. Our personal experiences, values, and circumstances differ from yours, which is why giving direct advice based on our own perspectives wouldn’t be helpful, it could even be harmful. Instead, therapy is about supporting you in finding your own solutions, in a way that aligns with your unique life experiences.

A good counsellor doesn’t foster reliance but promotes independence. The goal of therapy is to equip you with the confidence and skills to navigate life’s challenges on your own, so you don’t need therapy indefinitely.

While the journey may be frustrating at times, trust the process—growth takes time, and in the end, it will be worth it.

Shoba Lawrence
- Clinical Psychologist


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